Your partner may have been in a relationship with that person for many years. Obsessing over a specific ex won't do any good for you. I recently went through a personal crisis and found myself obsessing about it. And, while you may not be able to get over the consequences of prior decisions, you can let go of obsessing over them. Its a pain as I seem to go from intrusive thoughts to obsessing about the past. Even AI, often hailed as the ultimate driver of productivity and unfailingly accurate, makes mistakes, hence why there is practically an entire genre of comedy devoted to autocorrect text gaffes. Using your past memories to relive joyful times is an uplifting strategy. by Taylor Tobin via Fairygodboss | March 25, 2019 . But there's a reason why they're not together now. None of us are perfect. This is an extremely common cause of depression, but in this book, you'll learn how to finally forgive yourself for those mistakes, so that you can move on with your life and start living in the present. 8 Ways to Stop Obsessing Over Mistakes Stop Past Mistakes From Ruining Your Future. Beware of old baggage. No question about that. Write it down. Tune in to work on letting the past go. Do whatever must be done to help solidify this statement as a reality in your mind. Learn From Your Mistakes. Your obsession has an upside: it’s teaching you that you can and will learn from what happened in your past. I can't seem to get over my past mistakes, i have terrible guilt from it. I get obsessed about times, I've been wronged, regrets, embarrassing things, and times where I feel maybe I did wrong by someone, things I feel guilty about. Even though no one was hurt, I still feel like a monster (I posted about it several times before). Sing it. Feelings of anger, sadness and insecurity can be overwhelming and they can cause you to act irrationally. Originally published March 6, 2019 at 6:00 am. From regrets about past mistakes, to anxieties about change and loss; this is, I suppose, the grim inextricable part of the human condition. If you're like most people, you've had the experience of obsessing over something stressful that happened in your day. WE all make mistakes - that is called being human. How to Stop Obsessing Over Your Mistakes. 4. I’m not saying to ignore your past, but instead of obsessing over it, learn from it. But, overthinking and obsessing about past mistakes is not helpful, and this can lead to anxiety, stress and reduced performance at work. Obsessing over past events, missed opportunities or mistakes can only lead you down a destructive path of thinking. This is exactly the skill you need for coping with moments of rumination. ... A great way to get better at it is to think about what has triggered you in the past. Giants learned from past mistakes with latest free agent class By Ryan Dunleavy. Try to learn from the mistake. How to let go of past mistakes for good: forgive yourself The reason these memories keep coming up again and again is that you said or did something that didn’t go over so well. When mistakes happen, remember these things in order to stop worrying about the mistakes: The mistakes have already happened. First, the good news: When you learn how to stop obsessing about your past failures, regrets and bad choices, you’ll won’t keep repeating the same old relationship mistakes. Worrying is natural. Yell it. If you’re an overachiever who sets high standards for yourself, you probably find your errors feel really difficult to move past. Make changes in your behavior to avoid similar faulty situations and decisions that brought you guilt in the past… Say this to yourself out loud. Liked by Teresa, Volunteer Mentor, paulman58. Constantly obsessing over his past is not going to make you feel good about yourself or your relationship. It may have been something someone said that hit you in the gut, it may have been a situation where you wish you had the perfect comeback, or it may be a problem that replays itself in your mind over and over with no acceptable solution in sight. The mistakes i'm thinking of are from when i was 16/17. Take a glance, not a step back, because honestly, there are things you can crash into everywhere! Instead of ruminating over what you could have done better, stop and think about what you can learn. However, over time, this natural process can get let go so we stop carrying the past with us into the present, negatively affecting our lives. hey all, I seem to have a problem because I frequently obsess about my past mistakes and how I have messed up my life it gets me down quite easily and I struggle to deal with it. Move forward with each step slowly and incrementally until your mind is put at ease. Rather than worrying about the mistake, actively plan ways to recover from it. Reliving the memories is really a way of punishing yourself for doing something embarrassing or making a mistake you feel you shouldn’t have made. I Can't Stop Obsessing Over My Past Mistakes, To The Point Of Becoming Severely Depressed I made some poor decisions as a 16 year old that I can't get over. I was helping another person on here with their past mistakes and was able to help them i think, but i can't even take my own advice at times. If it is reasonable, ask the person in the past to forgive you, then move forward. As human beings it is normal to spend some of your time thinking about the past … Wish there were do-overs, but there aren’t. REPLY . 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